BDSM Paddles are used in BDSM style practices, for impact play, and have been for many years. They vary in size, weight, and what they are made of. In this article, we take an in-depth look at the BDSM Paddle and its uses.
What Is a BDSM Paddle
A BDSM Paddle is an instrument for inflicting pain sensations on a partner during sexual play.
BDSM Paddles vary in size, shape, and texture in order to create different pain sensations, from low deep pain to sharp stinging sensations.
Using BDSM paddles can be a great fun way to improve your love life, but there are quite a few things you should find out first. You will need to know and understand their different uses, how they feel on the skin and best safe practice.
What is a BDSM Paddle Used For?
With the agreement of their partners, pain is inflicted on them with the BDSM paddle in order to heighten sexual arousal and build up the thrill of being hit from the impact-play game itself and the sex that will usually follow.
The BDSM Paddle is the next stage up from spanking with the hand and offers a greater choice of pain sensations. Being many paddles are broader and harder than the hand, the pain can be felt over a larger area.
The pain from the paddle spanking activity increases the adrenalin in the brain going the receiver a rush, and thus an increase in the pleasure. It is not unusual for the BDSM paddle to be used during a normal sex session, but it is mostly used by couples during their foreplay. Couples tend to move up to the paddle after enjoying spanking to spice up their lovemaking.
Not all people enjoy the sensation of pain, and not all pain is the same so it is worth trying a few different paddles out. Some people really do enjoy being paddle-spanked, once they get into it. So if you and your partner are new to this, be considerate, take it slowly and carefully at first. Who knows it could be the beginning of the best sex you ever had.
It is important to say that the BDSM paddle is not designed for punishment, except in the context of BDSM sex play, where both partners have agreed to the use of the paddle. Please see our Safe Play With BDSM article
What Are The Different Pain Sensations With Different Paddles?
The different pain sensations from the BDSM Paddle are caused by its shape, size, construction, and what it is made from. A slim narrow paddle will give a stinging sensation, whereas a wider one will create a stronger deeper pain. The shape makes a sensation diffidence to the area of impact.
Slim paddles move faster through the air and the area of impact is quite small creating a sharper stinging type of pain.
Wider paddles move more slowly through the air and get more air beneath them, which acts as a sort of air cushion. Because they are wider means the area of contact is much broader, giving pain all over that area. Giving a strong deeper sort of pain.
There are many variations on the BDSM paddles. There are wide ones with holes in to move more quickly through the air and the are ones with studs in to enhance the pain.
There are also some crazy paddles out there; ones that will imprint a word, like love; ones with a whip tail to give a secondary sting; ones with spikes to increase the overall sensation of pain.
Our advice is to start with a simple medium size, cheap BDSM paddle at first and see what you and your partner enjoy using.
What Are BDSM Paddles Made From?
BDSM Paddles are made from a whole variety of materials. There are beautifully crafted ones, carved out of wood, and there are hi-tech ones made from silicone to help keep them scrupulously hygienic. Others made from steel and rubber, but the most popular ones seem to be made from leather.
There is a slight difference in the pain sensation created by what they are manufactured from, harder materials create that hard deep pain whilst leather and rubber paddles offer up more of a sting.
BDSM Secrets – Saftey Note:
Be careful with BDSM paddles made from metal. Metal paddles need to be of the highest quality stainless steel, otherwise, they made corrode or even rush. Paddle of this type needs to be cleaned with care as the chemicals used to clean them may degrade the paddle, causing issues with infections and allergic reactions.
Even greater care is needed with metal BDSM paddles that have spikes and the like, designed to penetrate the skin. It is very hard to sanitize this type of paddle their use may leave fine traces of bodily fluids, blood, and skin on the surface of the paddle. Even fully cleaned and sanitized the spiked metal BDSM paddle should not be shared between users.
BDSM Secrets – Paddle Saftey Note:
Be careful with BDSM paddles made from metal. Metal paddles need to be of the highest quality stainless steel, otherwise, they made corrode or even rush. Paddles of this type need to be cleaned with care, as the chemicals used to clean them may degrade the paddle, causing issues with infections and allergic reactions.
Even greater care is needed with metal BDSM paddles that have spikes and the like, that designed to penetrate the skin. It is very hard to sanitize this type of paddle their use may leave fine traces of bodily fluids, blood, and skin on the surface of the paddle. Even fully cleaned and sanitized the spiked metal BDSM paddle should not be shared between users.
How Much Do BDSM Paddles Cost?
There is a large selection of BDSM paddles at all different prices. Prices start from $8.49 for a 12-inch black vinyl paddle to $69.49 for a high-quality leather studded type.
And that’s without your discount from our online store BDSM-Secrets.store
There currently over 70 models of BDSM paddle in stock You pays your money and make your choice as they say!
Can I Make My Own BDSM Paddle?
You can make your own BDSM paddle from all sorts of materials, wood is popular to use as it can be carved and sawn into shape easily. You should always finish a wood paddle with some sort of coating such as lacquer and or paint to keep it clean and hygienic. You also better make sure that it is finished free from splinters too.
Leather with card inside is easy to make and depending on your craft skills, it will look good and work well.
The are many household items that can be used as a paddle and browsing the kitchen you might find objects such as spatulas and fish slices. We always recommend spending a few dollars and buying a BDSM paddle as this will help avoid any potential injuries.
Are BDSM Paddles Safe?
Paddles used in the correct way are quite safe to use but one must avoid getting carried away. Always read the manufacturer’s instructions. Using them too long and too strong could cause injury. It is good to remember that hitting an area that is wet or covered in cream will enhance the effect of the paddle and make it much more painful.
Where on the body you inflict the pain is important too. You need to have an idea of the body and how it works. Large areas with lots of fat and muscle, like the buttocks, are great for paddle play because they are normally far from internal organs.
The buttocks and upper thighs are the most popular place to hit and that area should be pretty safe, but be careful of the coccyx and the lower spine. In all other areas of the body, you must proceed with extreme care, for example, the front part of the body, along the spine, the neck, the face, head, or the genitals.
When hitting the buttocks, extra special care must be taken in the area of the lower back near to the kidneys.
Don’t copy what you see in porn movies, as these are professionals, and what you see will have most likely been set up by the special effects department to make the film.
Please see our Safe Play With BDSM article
I Want To Try Using BDSM Paddle, How To I tell My Partner?
Well telling your partner that you want to get a BDSM paddle and give impact-play a go could be interesting. I suppose it will come down to who is the one going to receive the pain and whether you have played at anything like this before.
If you have never done this between you before, it will probably be better to bring up the subject during sexual foreplay. Try and little squeezing and teasing and introduce the subject of using a paddle.
If the idea is rejected at this stage don’t dwell on the issue and don’t spoil the night. Bide your time and a little bit later maybe watch a light BDSM movie together.
Many couples have great fun and enjoy paddle-play in their sex lives, and it seems to be getting more and more popular. So if you want to give a BDSM paddle a try, go on, be brave and talk to your partner. Your sex life will most likely never be the same again.